MY TAKE A-WAYS FROM UNGLUED

I wish this book had come out earlier... like when my kids were toddlers! Not saying I would have never come unglued, but I sure would have had a different perspective on things. Now that I’ve finished the study, I can honestly say that I can "make my emotions work for me instead of against me."  I have by no means perfected any of this, but I have accepted the fact that my imperfect progress is drawing me closer to the Lord, as I have learned to lean on scripture, prayer and several other "tools" from Lysa.  Below I have quoted the key points or summarized these "tools", and when conflict arises (and it will.. who am I kidding, it HAS) I hope to apply them.

Chapter 1:  

 Imperfect changes are slow steps of progress wrapped in grace...imperfect progress. Praise God that is all He's asking for..."imperfect" progress towards His ways, He's not wanting perfection!

Chapter 2:  

I must change my thought patterns.  I can't control the things that happen to me each day, but I can control how I think about them. New thoughts come from new perspectives!

Chapter 3:  

God allows the unglued moments to make me aware of the chiseling that needs to be done. Be open and aware of what He reveals and allow Him to make the changes in you!

Chapter 4:    

Emotions are active and they travel. Condemnation defeats us. Conviction unlocks the greatest potential. Soul integrity is honesty that is godly.  Godly honesty is honesty reigned in by the Holy Spirit.  There are 4 categories of unglued:

• Exploder who shames herself.
• Exploder who blames others.
• Stuffers who build barriers.
• Stuffers who collect retaliation rocks. 

Chapter 5:  

Satan loves it when we do his work for him. My job is to be obedient to God not to "fix somebody." Feelings are indicators NOT dictators.  Don't let others control my emotions.  Holy restraint is the seed of fruit of self control.

Chapter 6:    

Stuffers need to build boundaries instead of barriers.  Am I trying to prove or improve?   

 

Chapter 7:  

I need a Biblical Procedure Manual (predetermined plan) to stay calm.  

• Remember who I am.
• Redirect my focus to Jesus.
• Recognize God's job isn't my job.
• Recite thanks and praises to God.
• Realize reactions determine reach.

Chapter 8:  

The more I keep things in perspective the gentler I become.  I am capable of gentleness because I have the Holy Spirit in me. LET YOUR GENTLENESS BE EVIDENT TO ALL!

Chapter 9:

Do I have a jealous spirit or a giving spirit?

Chapter 10:  

Questions I can use to hold my runaway thoughts and assumptions in check:

• Did someone actually say this or am I making assumptions about what they're thinking?
• Am I actively immersing myself in truth?
• Are there situations or relationships that feed my insecurities?

Chapter 11:  

Where there is a lack of rest, there is an abundance of stress.  When the rhythm of my soul is survival instead of revival I will come unglued.  The observer remembers to rest.  The preserver rests to remember.  3 Sabbath questions:

• Where am I going on my own way right now?
• What one area of my life is more self-pleasing than God pleasing?
• What idle words need to be reined in from running rampant in my mind or spilling from my lips?

Chapter 12:    

Coming unglued is glorious if the end result of that brokenness leads me to holiness. Outward expressions are internal indicators. (Her mouth speaks from that which fills her heart. Luke 6:45) I have to consider my underbelly and others' underbellies. 

Join me as I continue to strive toward imperfect progress. Let's work together and hold each other accountable... in the end, we all want the same thing! 

 

*I'D LOVE TO READ YOUR TAKE A-WAYS!*  (HINT HINT)